I have been on this board long enough to know that the story remains the same, just the names and places change. No one is any better or worse than any one else here. That is NOT to say that any one person is more or less important than any other person here. We are all in similar situations , together.
I feel, Aidpage was created for that purpose - to bring together people of similar circumstances to help one another and achieve what they formerly thought impossible. It is also about being proactive. I read a lot of posts about " What about me?" "No one cares about me". Here's a hint: It's not about YOU - it's about US, as a whole.
WE all have our days - God knows I have vented here enough times! But being in our situation does NOT give you the right to sit on your ass, and whine that no one helps. You cannot sit back , throw up your hands and say, " I did my share, now what about me?" and wait for something to drop in your lap. If it were that easy, none of us would be here. Being in our situation, does NOT give you the right to neglect yor children or yourself. It does NOT give you the right to blame others for your situation. It does NOT give you the right to have an indefinite, personal, pity party.
Do you hear that? That is the sound of Ed McMahon knocking at your door with your $10 million check from publishers clearing house. Ok I am being sarcastic, but I think you may get my point. That is to say that nothing falls into your lap and you should NOT expect it too. So what do you do?
BECOME ACTIVE
- in your life, in the lives of your children and the rest of your family.
- Get to know others in similar situations such as yours.
- Share information, help one another.You are not in this alone so why face it alone? Being alone does NOT mean you have to BE alone. Even if you have to face your personal situation alone, it does NOT give you the right to take a backseat to your own life.
- BEcome PRO-ACTIVE in your life. TAKE ACTION!!!! It IS hard. It does SUCK. But if you change nothing, nothing changes. You life will continue in the same downward spiral. STOP IT. Do something, anything.
- educate yourself and others
- Call 1 organization a day, until you get the help you need.
- Keep notes on everything.
- Pick up a phone book and start making phone calls.
- Start talking to people,collect information,keep a notebook. You may not need it now (or possibly never) but someone may.
I am not saying this to irritate people, I am saying this to MOTIVATE people. I know what it is like, I have been there. It has taken me years to get to where I am and although to some it may not be far from where I was. To me, its another world altogether. 10 years ago, I couldn't leave the house to get the mail. Last night, I took my daughter to a secret Fall Out Boy show. We heard about it at the last minute and we got in the car and went. It was crowded, hot, loud, people were crowd surfing. It was both terrifying and exhilarating at the same time. It was a once in a lifetime opportunity for my daughter and I was not going to let it pass her by. She was 3 feet from her rock idol and I MADE IT HAPPEN! And because of that I am the WORLD's Coooooooooolest MOM! ;) (for now anyway)
I could have let my life go and let others rule my life. I would still be terrified to leave my house. But I TOOK CONTROL OF MY LIFE. No, it is not the best life, but it is MINE and I live my life on my terms. If I want to take my daughter to a last minute, Fall Out Boy show, I am going and no one is going to tell me otherwise.
That is the way it should be in your life, too. Take control. Stop the whining, and take action. Don't let anyone tell you it cannot be done, because it can.
just my thoughts~
